“You’re The Average Of The Five People You Spend The Most Time With” – Jim Rohn
This such a powerful quote when we take time to reflect on it’s accuracy. While the purpose of this is not to make you decide who you should spend time with, it cannot avoid touching that subject. For example, take some time and think about the people you spend the most time with, consider why you gravitate to them, and examine how much you are all alike. This is not by accident. It is because we tend to adjust our behavior and beliefs (for better or worse) based on the feedback of others. We all want to be accepted. No matter how much we deny that need we are social beings who thrive on interaction. As a result, we often too easily believe the narrative others want for us.
This ties into the positive influence you are able to make in other people’s lives. If you are the average of five people, that means you are part of their average. As a result, your behavior and character influences theirs as much as theirs influences you. It is important to continuously examine who you surround yourself with. Do they push you to be better or do they encourage continued mediocrity. We often too easily believe the narrative others want for us.
There will also be times in life where you need something…help, advice, knowledge, wisdom, or even just someone to listen. That’s when you are really able to notice. Will the group you hang out with be able to help you in a positive way or will it fall short?
Take this challenge. Take a look at who you hang out with the most because that is who you are becoming. Ask the hard question that only you can answer. Is that really who you want to be? If so, carry on you are doing great. If not…make the tough decision and change. You will be better off for it.
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